8- victim mentality, changing your attitude, taking personal responsibility for your life

Podcast #8 Show Notes
Weight Loss Tiki Podcast
Hosted By: Kary Has
Podcast Episode: 8
Date: July 11th, 2018
Sponsored By: The Best Life Weight Loss Plan & Interactive Journal

Short Story Featured: The Garbage Truck
Moral: We assign blame out so that we don’t have to deal with the consequences of our own behavior


VICTIM MINDSET and how it’s holding you back

How to tell if you are in victim mode:
-you feel you’ve been dealt a bad hand
-situations you are in are not your fault
-someone has done something bad to you effecting your life
-you have a situation you can not control that is guiding your life in a certain way
-your past has unpleasant moments that define who you are in a negative way
-you blame something or someone for your situation

Common everyday examples
– road rage
– waiting on someone to take action
– someone dislikes you or hurt your feelings
– you were late to something because you got held up by “something”
– someone caused you to be upset

This is the victim mindset.
Defensive Yet? Yup- you’re definitely in victim mode

I want to be clear- you may have every right to be a victim.

When you are a victim- you are powerless about the situation.
You are stagnant and not moving forward-
you are reliving the past, in a negative way
every time you think about the situation that made you a victim- you think of it with pain, or regret, or anger

Victim mentality can result from large disturbing life changing events
Victim mentality can result from small senseless things

So why are we talking about being a victim?
Victim mentality…. Is an Attitude
is it the difference between….
torturing yourself through it
or the alternative- looking forward to it
feeling helpless about a feeling or situation
or having the powerful opportunity to use it to your advantage

Our question from last week…
How do you tell your story?
what’s in your past?
If you have painful spots in your past- are you telling it from a victim mindset view point?

if you are- I challenge you to hear me out
there IS an alternative
you don’t have to get brainwashed or receive shock therapy to change your thoughts in your favor
and you don’t have to condone wrongful acts that have been bestowed upon you
you don’t even have to forget the negative moments of your life- that’s not healthy

IT happened
It happened to you
it happened for a reason
the reason you attach is your key

find out WHY
the WHY you attach is your choice- and is where your power hides
you will not find your WHY from interviewing your assailant
or family members
you will find it from within yourself
by asking yourself- how do you WANT to feel about it

no matter what the circumstance or situation is- how did what happened make you a better person
this is not easy- its hard
you will resist
You may say -no- there is nothing good that came out of it.
you aren’t looking hard enough.
you can find something.
it made you stronger somehow

If you are going through life blaming others or circumstances for your outcomes
think again
find the why
find it by asking yourself how you want to feel
get your power back

Take out the blame you are directing all around you
no one likes to be around a negative nelly
focus on your attitude
how do you want to feel about it?

Example: Dog ate your homework
Do you want to sit there and dwell on it, tortured you have to redo it
or find a reason why its better this happened and you GET to redo it.
You even know a way to make it fun I bet (reference from previous episode)

if you don’t- take a deep breath, get out your pen and pad and brainstorm
do a challenge and solution brain storm- find a way
ask the powerful question… how could I make this fun

OR sit there pissed and miserable
which one sounds better?

We are accustomed to playing the blame game

I will tell you a secret- no one else is responsible to make you feel better, or to make you successful In anything except for you

you are the only person who can get you out of a funk
you are the only person who can chew & swallow the food you eat (you are not a baby bird)
you are the only person who believes the thoughts you tell yourself
you are the only one deciding what actions you will take from the time you get up until you go to bed

you may have people in your life that WANT you to do certain things- like feed them and drive them places
but you decide what you do ultimately
there are parents out there that don’t- don’t feed their children.

the biggest mistake you can make is relying on someone else to make you happy
they have no control over the thoughts in your head, your beliefs, your actions…
so how can they be responsible for how you feel?

you learn lessons from mistakes.
YOU learn lessons from YOUR mistakes
how can you learn a lesson when you are too busy blaming someone else for your outcome?
how can you move forward and learn from it?
you cant.

Victims are helpless
YOU are not helpless
victims are stagnant. In a holding place. Not able to move on

you ARE a victim until you become a survivor
A victim is a presently active verb that is still occurring
a survivor happened. In the past. And its done

a survivor does not have to continuously relive the survival
it’s a past experience that shaped who they are today
you made it.
You’re on the other side and are actively moving away from it because you are going on with your life


Shop, Chop and Roll Meal Plan:

Breakfast: chocolate blueberry smoothie
Snack: breakfast sandwich- English muffin, american cheddar, egg white
Lunch: gazpacho soup in a mason jar and spinach summer salad with feta cheese, onion, strawberries, almond slivers
Snack: peach
Dinner: Taco Bell- Chicken Power Bowl
Snack: Mcdonalds ice cream cone
Calorie Content for the Day: 1393


Question to consider until next week…

What excuse do you use to avoid starting your weight loss journey today? Click To Tweet

Don’t miss next week when we will discuss:
The most popular weight loss excuses
and debunking each one!

Show Notes Bonus Features…

6 plum tomatoes- peel and chop
1 red onion- chopped
1 cucumber- peeled and chopped
1 red bell pepper= chopped
2 stalks celery chopped
handful of parsley or cilantro
1 tsp garlic (I use the jar)
1/4 cup olive oil
1/4 cup apple cider vinegar
1 tbsp. lemon juice
2 teaspoons sugar
6 drops tobacco sauce
15 oz can crushed tomatoes
*blend a little at a time (I divided the recipe into 3 blends)
Put in fridge and enjoy!!! Lasts over a week.

Chocolate Blueberry Smoothie-
1 c frozen blueberries
1 c almond milk
1 tbsp cocoa powder

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Ninja Blender

mason jars



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